Friendship after Breakup: myth or truth?

Relationships..

Loving a person beyond limits, exuding with utter confidence knowing that there’s a person by your aide who considers you as their world, is the best feeling one can ever experience. Madenning in love, making up a ‘paradise’ in your life, with no one else but that one person. But falling in love isn’t the difficult part. Just as many people who confuse distractions with love. However it is when love ends that it’s difficult or next to impossible to let go off that leash! A thousand reasons that lead to the end to an epic moment they shared. ‘The Break Up’. Break ups are always ugly, no matter what the reason/explanation be. Let it be two respective individuals agreeing to end it, due to their differences or the mere fact of no future with each other or one of them falling for someone else. Or sometime all of the above and many more! No matter what the reason is or was, breakups lead to a complete isolation of simple drive and motivation in as well as towards life.

“Can we still be friends? “ is a question that always pops up in this process. Maybe due to the many feelings that both of them share for each other or just a simple case of sympathy. However though it depends on how the individuals take it and what they ultimately decide, the answer to this question should probably be in the negative. Believing in the remote possibility of being friends in the future, after being emotionally and physically attached to someone is nothing but a transition that no individual can ever be capable of. The reason might lie in love itself, Love is the purest and the strongest form of friendship one can ever have. That’s why it’s said that your lover is your caretaker as well your best friend. The simple concept of being friends after a break up is not only abrupt but a dream not so far fetched. Looking at the same person and not feeling a thing, being with them and not seeing yourself in a distant future, hugging them or the simple fact of keeping your hands off them. In the process, you end up being nothing but a frustration or rather just a harassment in that person’s life, who once believed to see you as their world, with everything around being as blurred as possible, making it easier to focus! Focus on that one person. But it just doesn’t last, just ends. Makes it harder and harder to pull off the fact that the person is never coming back. That sense of drowning and seeing no life savers to pull you out! Love can be the perfect ecstasy and cavalier, however a break up gets you to see into that person from a different perception, something you never believed to exist. And above that if you try and pull out the ‘still friends’ card, it’s nothing but destroying your already insane life even further. It’s like a severe case of paralysis that makes you slow down in life, making it difficult to process anything in your life for further. Friends can never work because, love does take the best into you and turns it into something farther more, however break up takes a significant amount of you in that very process. Being friends isn’t advisable, because it just can’t happen without. Other individual’s consent. Seeking a way for keeping the person in your life the same way and with that same stage of importance, leads to an attempt to be friends after a lover. Making you believe in something you never even thought of, that ‘It’s Just OVER!’ A sure myth, being friends after break up.

Because at the end of the day it’s not about moving on , it’s about making yourself believe that your love, wasn’t strong enough to make way through all those reasons.