5 Reasons Being Single In Your Teens Is The Best
Sure, being in love has its perks. But being all by yourself is probably the best time you will have to yourself without anyone constantly interfering with your life. Out of the many advantages that single people enjoy, given below are a few which may lead to everyone in relationships reconsider it:
1. Freedom.
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Admit it, you have never had as much freedom as much you do when you’re alone and don’t have someone dictating the terms of the world to you. Being in a relationship can be exhausting because the other person doesn’t give you enough space to be with yourself or the people in your life, and this is one of the main reasons couples fight and miss. Being free. Free enough to do exactly what he/she likes, hang out with the people he/she prefers, behave the way they want with out having to know at the back of the mind that they have to be responsible and have someone to answer to. Freedom is also something that has to be present in the walls of your mind. If you mentally feel prisoned, chances are, it’s going to eat you up, before you know it. Rather than talking it out, we impose. We humans are feeble and insecure which sometimes make it tough for us to understand each other’s situation and put ourselves and our needs before them. Which is why, being single is preferably ideal, because wouldn’t you rather be able to do everything you want without being restricted than lie and cheat and unsuccessfully cover up only to ruin a relationship later on?
2. Less dependency.
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When you’re single, you don’t have to constantly lean on someone for things, literally even. Being in a relationship is sharing a bond of love and faith with another person, and also trust. So much that sometimes you have to involuntarily trust the person you’re with and know that what he is saying or doing is right and just let him do things according, even when you don’t fully believe them. We are dependant on them to acknowledge our presence in their lives and trust them enough to know what is best for us so we depend on their capabilities. We let them decide for us and let them take control of us, our feelings and emotions even when sometimes we may not need it. Some people are financially, emotionally and mentally dependent on their partner which may leave them with no space for themselves or to live life the way they want. When you’re single, you aren’t left with a choice and you have to be there and fall back on yourself.
3. Expectations.
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Time and again we have been facing this dilemma of having to prove to the person we are with that we are good enough for them. That they made a right choice by choosing to be with you and that you are worthy of their attention. Unknowingly you devote all or most of your precious time in being the things that they want and not what you want to be. Expectations could have good intentions from where they’re coming from, but however it is impossible to know how that affects the other person. It is tedious and tiring to know everything and do everything how it’s done and sometimes be even better. We have pushed ourselves to the limit more often than once so when you feel like there’s nothing more you have left to give: don’t. That would be the right time to get out of it and give go where you’ll receive: yourself.
4. Lots of “me time”.
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Naturally, when in a relationship, you are expected to spend time with the person you’re with more than usual, and though it makes sense and is ideal to do so, consider this: you’re single. You can do everything you have ever wanted to. You have time to watch things, experience things and learn things. You have ample time to not only know things about everything around you, but the one thing that’s most necessary: yourself. When you have the time, you get to discover yourself in ways like never before. Now consider a relationship which may or may not bring out the best in you. A relationship where you dedicate all of your time and energy to the person you’re with but you’re either left exhausted or the other person is unsatisfied.
5. Save more money.
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Let’s be real, happiness and satisfaction comes at a price. And more often than not, the price is an expensive one. If it were to come down the question as to whether being single is really better than being in a relationship then lets just bring out the big guns here: money. You could do the one thing that we also so successful fail at by being single: save! After all, even ‘getting a room’ is expensive. Saving and having a little money handy does sound like a good option too. Also, it helps if you have big dreams and aspirations that you want to fulfill in life. Though love surpasses money any day, it wouldn’t be wrong to say that we would all like our basic needs and necessities to be fulfilled and what’s worse, not like them taken away. And anything more than that, with right intentions, is an added bonus. Sometimes let’s just tell ourselves that it is okay to be selfish because let’s face it, if we can’t be selfish for ourselves, who will?
If you have somewhere agreed to even a few things above, then I’m successful on my mission and you, dear reader, have a lot of thinking to do. Being single is not all that bad that one makes it out to be. Sometimes, doing things with yourself isn’t all that bad and company isn’t necessary every minute of the day, every day of your life. We are after all born alone, aren’t we? Well, most of us anyway. The odds say it all.
