Being A Nerd Does Not Make You Less Sensual.
“Never apologize for being nerdy because un-nerdy people don’t apologize for being jerks.”
Teenage life is weird. It expects you to change, however it’s you who change it. It is sudden and unexpected and you never ever know when it hits you. And everything you’ve been hearing as a kid contradicts what you actually have to live through. It seems like the longest era of your life however it is over before you even know it. In such a period, it is natural for some teenagers to try to find the person they are, their likes and dislikes, who they are compatible with, etc. Some, however, fail the test because they never realize it is a phase to discover not what your friend likes, but you, yourself do. Therefore are created different groups of people. Some who like to party, some who like to read and some who like to do both. However, there is a generic image in the society that people who go out to party and more social than the ones that aren’t are much more likeable. The kind of idea that has stuck and mentally tortures children and teenagers like. It is because we see that the people who go out, wear the best and sexiest of clothes, talk to a lot of people, make it evident by pictures that we may sometimes feel that we lead an uninteresting life. But we misinterpret different for boring. Being social isn’t a crime and they definitely might be attractive and appealing to others but the world needs its nerds and introverts. We can’t do without them. The ones that would quote Plato or Bukowski when their partner needs them to. The kind that have read all kinds of romances of every generation and yet shy the first time they are put in the position. The kind that has the patience that would need to handle the other person and the kind that would know when would be the right time to give his/her partner a peck or a tight hug.
What we need to change is to associate sexuality with the clothes worn by males and females ( or the clothes not worn by them ) It is highly likely for a person to wearing the shortest dress in the room and still not look as beautiful and sexy as the person who is extremely comfortable and feeling herself in a paid of jeans. Sexuality comes from within. And towards your partner, it is the emotion that you express and when. It expresses the feelings you have for your partner and how strong they are, and these feelings do not come by being social or talking to a lot of people. They show when your love is strong. They show when you are comfortable with yourself and your body. They show when you are confident of the person you are and are not afraid to be it in front of someone. So if you don’t have something to say when two people are talking, it doesn’t define your sexuality. But if you would have to recite a beautiful poem that speaks about love and its boundaries to a room full of people who have never read a book, it just might.
If you’re a nerdy, then congratulations. Because no matter how many places a person who is not a nerd has been to, you’ve still been to more places than him. Don’t ever refrain from showing that off. In style, too.